When the Romance Fades – Northwest Bible Church

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Sunday, November 05, 2017

When the Romance Fades

Ken Harrell

Senior Pastor

Key Scripture

Song of Solomon 1:9–11, 15–16, 2:10–13, 7:10–13

Take Away / Application

Examining the practical importance of how Talk, Time, Touch and Thoughtfulness can be key factors in helping restore and keep the romance in our marriages.

Discussion Questions

Don’t be afraid to add to this list, skip questions that don’t work for your Group or branch off with additional questions as discussion unfolds. Conversation is key! This is the time to work through the application of scripture and have your group members figure things out together.

  1. Discuss and define what romance and intimacy mean to you. Go beyond the text book definition and talk about what they practically mean, not only to you, but to your spouse or significant other.
  2. What does romance in your marriage look like? (i.e. date nights, conversations, listening, etc.) If you’re not married yet, what do you hope it looks like when you find your spouse?
  3. Read Matthew 7:3–5. Whether dating, engaged or married, it’s easy to look at the other person and point out the things they need to change. However, according to Matthew 7:3–5 we must first look at ourselves. What do you need to change to better love your significant other?
  4. Men, read Ephesians 5:25. How does the way Christ loved the church translate into a marriage relationship? How did He love the church? What additional Scripture references can you go to that show His love for the church?
  5. Women, read Ephesians 5:24. How does the church submit to Christ? Submission to the Lord is not a negative thing or something that takes away from the rights of someone. How can submission be a good thing in marriage?
  6. Read Deuteronomy 13:4 and Genesis 2:24. Discuss the importance of not only cleaving or holding fast to your spouse, but to the Lord.
  7. Which of the four keys to restoring the romance do you and your spouse need to or want to focus on?
  8. Read Colossians 1:17. Is Christ the center-point of your marriage? Is Christ the center-point of your personal life? If Jesus isn’t our first love we will be unable to love our spouse the way God intended us to. On a weekly and daily basis, how can you keep Christ your center-point and first love?
  9. If you’re single, how can this message help you prepare for marriage? What do you need to work on in order to become the godly man or women God intends for marriage? Describe what a godly man or woman looks and acts like.
  10. Based off of today’s message, is there an area of your marriage that your Group can help you with or keep you accountable to?

Sermon Notes

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Scripture Reference

Song of Solomon


Family, Marriage, Purity, Relationships, Romance, Sex