When God Says “No”

Life is full of the unexpected and the unwanted. What we say and do when those times come often reveal our true character.

When we look at God’s Word, we see David faced one of these times. And we can learn a lot from how he reacts “When God Says ‘No.’”

Key Scripture

2 Samuel 7

Discussion Questions

Don’t be afraid to add to this list, skip questions that don’t work for your group, or branch off with additional questions as discussion unfolds. Conversation is key! This is the time to work through the application of scripture and have group members figure things out together.

1. Sometimes we make well-intentioned decisions, but it’s difficult to know whether it’s in God’s will or not. What does your decision-making process look like? How do you consult God and seek His lead? How can you ensure that your choices are in His will?
2. In 2 Samuel 7:18, David realizes his position after God told him “no” by responding, “who am I, O Lord God”? We see similar acknowledgment in other examples through scripture. Read Isaiah 29:16 and Isaiah 64:8. How do you respond when you hear a “no” from God? Do you respond as David did in 2 Samuel or Isaiah? Why or why not?
3. David didn’t allow God’s “no” in his life to be a point of discouragement, anger, or bitterness. But instead used his time and talents to prepare his son (the next generation) for the Lord’s plans before them. How are you preparing the next generation for God’s plan? On the flip side, is there anything you’re teaching the next generation not to do? How can you change or repent to be a better example?
4. God has told all of us “no” throughout circumstances in our lives. In your notes, review God’s reasons for saying “no.” Have you seen any of these in your own life? How about any other reasons? Do you accept those reasons or ever ask “why”?
5. Read James 1:2–4. Pastor Matt discussed how sometimes, when God says no, He wants to increase our faith. Reflect on your attitude, words, and actions. How can you ensure your heart posture remains soft towards God and others in seasons of the testing of your faith? How can your life group help you?
6. Read Acts 16:6–10. God’s “no” is not always discipline or rejection but redirection. Discuss this example in more detail. Have you seen God’s redirection in your own life?
7. Looking back on moments in your life when the Lord closed a door, how did that situation ultimately turn out? Did you praise and thank Him for His provision? Take time this week to quiet yourself before the Lord and thank Him and praise Him for all He has done in your life.
8. After the message and meeting as a group, has your view changed of using and receiving the word “no”?

Accountability

• Where are you reading in the Bible this week? What has God been revealing to you through your quiet time with Him?
• Discuss any struggles you may be going through with your group.
• How can you be praying for your group this week? How can they be praying for you?

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