In This Series
- Our Common Ministry
- Utmost Importance
- What Do You Do?
- Perhaps Today!
- Derailing Your Purpose in Life
- Practical Atheism
- A Fresh Stirring
- Spiritual Adultery!
- Misdirected Passion
- What Do You Want The Most?
- It’s So Very Dangerous
- Clearing Up the Confusion
- A Word of Caution
- Superficiality Condemned
- Diligence Required
- Dangerously Deceiving
- Something Desperately Needed
- Trouble in the Forecast
Let’s Get Real! (18)
Sunday, June 03, 2018
It’s So Very Dangerous
My brethren, let not many of you become teachers, knowing that we shall receive a stricter judgment. For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body. Indeed, we put bits in horses’ mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body. Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires. Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things.
See how great a forest a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.
Take Away / Application
- What you really are is demonstrated by the things you say. The tongue reveals what’s in your heart.
- We have a captain, in Jesus, that can control the rudder (our tongue) of our life.
Don’t be afraid to add to this list, skip questions that don’t work for your group or branch off with additional questions as the discussion unfolds. Conversation is key! This is the time to work through the application of scripture and have group members figure things out together.
- There’s an old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Is it true? Was there ever a time when you wished you could take back your words? In what situations do you find your speech most out of character with who you really are?
- In light of James 3:4 discuss a time when someone’s words had a major impact on you (good or bad).
- What are some examples of an untamed tongue (for example, gossip)? Try to name at least six. (Proverbs 12:18-19, 13:3, 16:27, 17:7, 18:6–8, 25:18)
- James uses three examples (bit, rudder and spark) of something small that has enormous influence on setting direction. Read Proverbs 4:23 then Matthew 15:18. Reflect on these passages and discuss.
- Have you ever said contradictory things as in VKames 3:9-10? Which speech pattern represents your true identity?
- How do we tame our tongues? Should we first focus on taming the tongue or on our hearts? Why? (see Matthew 15:18).
- We can easily name ways the tongue can be destructive, but how can we use our tongue for blessings in our daily interactions with others?
- Read James 3:8. If no human being can control the tongue, why bother trying?
- The key to controlling the tongue is this, “We have a captain, in Jesus, that can control the rudder (our tongue) of our life.” All of us need to improve in controlling our tongue, what do you need to do to give Jesus this control? How can your group or a trusted friend keep you accountable in this area?